The Return of Sophia

I have this rental property in Denver that I ended up with in my divorce. So I’ve been managing it lately to get it under control, which has been a huge, time-eating pain and enormously draining emotionally and financially. I can't stand it any more so I’m am now turning it over to a property management company, but I still have to rent out the basement unit.

Now the basement unit is not cute like the other places in this old house in Highlands Square, and it’s actually quite down right dumpy. But it has managed to be rented to somebody, recently a string of more Goth young women.

I want a bit high of rent, but that’s just to cover expenses. I have shown it a lot, with a few interests, yet the final verdict was they found something better.

Late one night I get a call from a heavily accented woman. I run down there from Boulder, (thank GOD I have a Prius!) and it’s a Hispanic woman and her mother.

“You OK to rent to Hispanics? Because some people don’t like to rent to Spanish-people, you know?”

I responded in Spanish that my late husband was Hispanic and my children are Hispanic and that I am not a racist. I showed them around, the laundry room (new coin op washer and dryer on a Lowe’s Credit card!) Then she said there would be four people and three cars. Four people and three cars in that 2BR, 2BA? I thought, oh boy, the other tenants may not like that. She said they have to find a place in a hurry because the place where they lived for four years, the owner wants to move back in to refinance. I sure understand that notion. I had considered it but thought, “No way! My kids’ education and safety and happiness are number one. I don’t care what it costs.”

Everybody eventually showed up. The young brother is 11, and he goes, coincidentally, to the same school as my best friend’s Son, Maria Sandoval. It’s this great bilingual school. I was jealous that my friend’s kid could speak such great Spanish and that it was so well integrated socio-economically!
The boy is trying to get into the same international school as my friend’s son. The older son is 23, works at the local restaurant, and is going to Metro next year on a cross-country scholarship.

I saw it all there. The issue and reality of poor Hispanics, living in that fringe world of Spanish-speaking parents and their American-born kids who are translating for them, getting good jobs and an education. Following the American Dream, nonetheless. These kids work like hell, and I’m so impressed. He’s not like the suburban boys whose Mama’s take them shopping at Macy’s. He went to the local North High School. And considering I was just performing near there during Cinco de Mayo, I know what these kids are up against to survive. The stress, violence, family and social issues. I think about my late husband, Frank Q. Solis, how his first job was shoe shining in San Antonio and his grandfather was a semi-literate butcher. I think how the lines blur generationally, and that eventually it won’t matter who you are or where you come from, you are just a human being and deserve basic human rights to live.

I remember Justin had said a Hispanic family had come by once, but when you gave them the application, they never came back. Probably not having the credentials needed. Maybe they are illegal.

But instead of wondering if they were or illegal, what I looked and I saw standing in front of me an 11-year-old boy who needed a place to live and safety and security so that he could do well in school. I saw his hard-working older brother, and I saw his charming mother who I enjoyed talking Spanish to and about Mexico and how she didn’t get an education in Mexico as a child because she had to work and I know how desperate and poor things can be down there because I have been there many times.

And who would not want a better life for their child? I would never blame anybody so courageous and loving for their children that they risk death to cross the border. Unless you’ve traveled abroad and seen extreme poverty for yourself, you will never understand what I am talking about. And I think about those children, born into poverty. I remember when I worked for a newspaper in Mexico City there were children who lived in the sewers, and the whole world is filled with suffering children, as so beautifully told in the movie Slumdog Millionaire recently.

The father turns out he is a builder. So perfect! I will exchange some rent for fixing up this badly neglected property, such as the exterior paint and the chimney that may fall down at any moment and crush someone. My best friend gave them rave reviews, and so did the man’s employer.

I woke up in the middle of the night thinking, “Oh, no! Sydney, here you go again! Trusting too much! Look where that got you. What if this is all an act? They will skip on the rent! How will you evict them? You didn’t get all those people’s information! It will destroy you!”

But somehow I don’t think so. Somehow I think it will work out actually really well. They can do the weeding also. And I will practice my Spanish and continue fixing up the place. And I hope that they prosper, and that their children do really well in school and contribute as upstanding citizens to the good old U.S.A. Because there is a revolution going on and a renaissance at the same time. Things are changing, and the change is taking place on a different realm. It’s the realm of the heart. It’s the return of Sophia.

I hope that every child in the world gets adequate shelter, clothing, food and an education. Even if these people were illegal, I would still rent to them, because I follow a law that is higher than those of men. My law is of love and justice and humanity. And where there is a child involved, I will always do what is best for the child first. And I think that’s where the world is headed, that we do things for humanity first, especially children, and not for profit. When we move from that center everything is in balance and the dharma just leads everything to its place.

¡Viva la revolución!

Amor y paz
Sydney Solis

Radix Ipsius Revisited

I drove down to Speer AGAIN, to show the basement unit. It's pretty dumpy; a window is broken and covered up with duct tape, the carpet is pretty worn. It's not THAT bad, and again, Highlands Square is a popular neighborhood. People have looked at it and they are interested, just when I made drastic plots in my mind that I would default on my mortgages and credit cards and move to Mexico or India and home school my children. But I was able to identify those fearful thoughts, and put my Queen of Bohemia into action and not manifest anything so negative. I envisioned with my poppyseed wand that the basement will be rented, I will fix it up over time, because it really is a darn cute property and my "golden nugget," according to one financial adviser. It's just that this basement one is hard to fill and it's summer so there is a lot of competition. I could lower the price, but then all this moving tenants around and fixing up and raising rents on that upper end would be for not! One guy applied, but I can't be desperate because he is pretty sketchy, was reluctant to give me his bank account info, which turns out not to exist. So I think eating a month's rent is cheaper than doing an eviction!

I brought my daughter to Speer and later we had fun exploring the Hispanic area of N. Federal Blvd. Checking out the Botanica Yemaya, which I've driven past a zillion times but never stopped in. We used our Spanish interpreting the soaps, herbs and magical candles used for protection, getting rid of envy, bringing money, even changing bad students into good ones! We checked out all the statues of the saints and various incense. My daughter said it was just like Mexico, and indeed, it's a nice little change. We loaded up on Mexican candy and I bought a Jesus candle and some soap of the saints. The cashier told me, "Buena suerte," as we left, and yes, because of the power of my thoughts I will have good luck. Then we stopped at the Piñateria and bought a little friend who is about to have a birthday a handmade mermaid piñata. Amazing they still do this stuff, and it's not all just imported from China! I wondered how the guy manages his rent. So this time with my daughter is the most important thing, even though the worries about the rental properties and Justin still in contempt of court mess, I keep my mind at peace with the joy of what really matters. My children. Even yesterday, we walked down to the park again. The simplicity that arises in the present moment that fills you up with joy, knowing that this is why we exist. To kick a ball and run, to hear the laughter of your children, and to chase after your dog. I know that when you lose everything you do find your Self. That Radix Ipsius, the root of yourself. You can hear it clearly in the darkest of your hours. You are grounded in this Being that shows itself very clearly and unmistakably. I have found that also I have returned to the Prima Materia. That first ground, before the wounding. I reflect on the absence of Frank and the children's father, that terrible loss. How to get back to that joyous space that we were in before the death, before all the upheaval and terror. When my children were just little itty bitty kids and we had raspberry picnics in our backyard, just eating the raspberries off the canes and threading together pea seed pods to make necklaces and there wasn't a care in the world.
So it's just the three of us again, me and my children. And that's all I need for now. Even though tis' enormously lonely and I have to invite my father over to eat with us once a week or I would go nuts. And I may ask my sister to live with me too just out of sheer necessity because people weren't meant to raise children alone. Only in this odd American isolated world does that happen. And maybe we are all going into the fourth dimension like my father says, and not to worry, and maybe he's not insane because interestingly enough, listening to Fritjof Capra's the Tao of Physics again, he says the same thing!
And even though the landlady wants to raise the rent on where I am now in Boulder, I do not fear. I won't think about moving home to my father's house where it is squalid and unlivable and is the negative thinking of my mother and my childhood. All negative thinking is removed, because that's the Queen. Thoughts of slashing the tires on my former mini van out of anger and vengeance or wishing Justin doom all vanish with the wave of my poppy seed wand. I don't create that hell. because truly hell is in your own experience of life through the lens of a cloudy mind, and you alone create that experience with your emotions, thoughts and focus.
I'd rather be rooted and create from there. I will stay in this lovely house way up near the foothills in Boulder because I know and I believe that everything will work out, despite my heavy load. And there is only one more month of double Saturn. I will survive. And I have been keeping the Boulder house clean and tidy. It's a continual effort. Like a new life. And that is very, very good.

Backwards We Spell Japan

Nancy, Albert, Patti and Jeanie. Backwards the first letters of our names spell JAPAN. We always knew that. We children always knew that our father is Dutch and that he is a child survivor of a Japanese concentration camp. It was during World War II. He was born on the island of Java. Before it was called Indonesia. Before, when it was a Dutch colony run by the Dutch East India Company. One captain Straub was our seafaring ancestor who married a princess from the island of Madura.
The Dutch traded coffee and sugar, quinine and indigo to bring back to the motherland, and tea that grew on plantations cleared from the jungle. My father lived on tea and sugar plantations, with my Oma, his two sisters, and my grandfather Straub, a mechanical engineer who kept the plantation machinery going. He starved to death in a POW camp outside of Tokyo. I know him only as a charcoal drawing on white paper hanging above my father’s bed.
“Those dirty Japs,” Mom always says. “Thank God for the atomic bomb.”
We know that our father is a child survivor of a Japanese concentration camp because Mom tells everybody. The people with blank faces at St. Ambrose Church that mom forces me to attend, to my neighbor Leslie’s mother, to Lou the skinny milkman who nods and nods and nods.
“They don’t know about the dirty Japs, Patti,” she says to me. I tell Mom about the Holocaust we are studying in school. Gritty black-and-white films of shriveled corpses bulldozed into pits, Jews’ hair made into rugs, their skin into soap. “Tell your teacher your father was a child survivor of a Japanese concentration camp,” Mom says. I do. My teacher stares at me bewildered.
“Is your father Japanese?” No, no. I shake my head. “Is he Jewish?” No, no. I can’t speak. I feel it stuck in my throat. My family is in the wrong concentration camp.
We know that our father is a child survivor of a Japanese concentration camp. We go to the K-Mart, Nancy, Albert, Patti and Jeanie. With Mom, who chases down blue-light specials for cheap blue-and-red plaid shirts.
“Come on, kids, hurry!” she says running.
It’s Hiroshima Nagasaki Day. August 6, 1976 in Boulder, Colorado. We stop at the snack stand for white hoagie sandwiches with ham and lettuce and mayonnaise. Mom orders water, but Nancy pleads for Icees, and Mom thinks, and then says OK. We hold the waxy Icee drink cups with polar bear triangles on the side that Albert cuts out and mails in for free cheapo gifts. The Icee cups full of red slush that make it easy for Nancy and me to shoplift red fingernail polish in.
“$4.95,” the girl behind the counter says. She is bored, with blond-feathered hair. She glosses her lips with a sour grape Bonnie Bell lip smacker. She stares at Mom’s nose, broken in 1943 when she was kicked by a horse. Plastic surgery wasn’t too good back then and now her nose looks like someone mashed a wad of silly putty on the tip.
“Do you know what today is?” Mom asks. The girl shrugs. “It’s Hiroshima Nagasaki Day. When we bombed the Japs.” I press my face to the glass, watch my nose leave a crescent of steam.
You know, my husband is a child survivor of a Japanese concentration camp,” Mom says, fishing through her big, black secondhand handbag. “If we didn’t drop the bomb, none of these children would be standing in front of you.” We suck our Icees, bite the straws, shoulders hunched, backs turned. We disappear into our own fantasy. We are not here with Mom. Not with this moment.
“Shit, dog shit. Bobbie rocco moco poco pup,” Mom says. Mom can’t find the money. She can find the car keys at the bottom of the bag, along with the broken lipstick containers, cracker crumbs and dried lemon slices swiped from restaurants. She can find the coupons, the dry felt-tip pens, the spare Kotex that will catch her diarrhea that suddenly comes on out of nowhere, because she ate too many tomatoes or drank too much black coffee. The diarrhea that drops in small brown bloodstains behind her after she quickly pays the girl, then shuffles to the bathroom at the back of the store.
Nancy, Albert, Patti and Jeanie. We wolf down our hoagies sitting in the yellow and orange snack booths waiting for Mom. Nancy is the oldest, older than me by six years. Then came Albert, ten months later. Irish twins, my father says. Then came me, born late, the day after Christmas, 1966. And then Jeanie, two Februarys later. Mom says we were accidents. Four 10-pound accidents. She could have found somebody rich, married Liberace, or Onassis, or somebody else, she says. But she asked our father to marry her, and she got us.
We know that our father is a child survivor of a Japanese concentration camp. We are packed in our house together, like the thousands packed into the concentration camp, in the monastery at Ambarawa 7 where Dad lived for three years as a little boy. We are packed into house that has no dining room and no family room. Jeanie and Albert are together in one bedroom, Nancy and me in another. Then Mom and Dad in the big bedroom. But Mom is everywhere. She is in the oversized painting of fishing boats washed on the shore, mysteriously without fishermen, hanging crooked in the living room. She is the collection of pen-and-ink caricature drawings on the wall, her oversized head looking like a young Johnny Cash with long hair, her hand posed with a writing quill. She is the innumerable scattering of out-of-date books, astronomy, chemistry, world encyclopedias and communist China film strips grabbed from the free box at the Boulder Valley School’s discard sale. She is the neighbor’s trashcans that she digs through, searching, pulling, hauling things back to the house, old wood, broken mirrors, or locks with no keys. She is the popcorn-yellow paint in the kitchen laced heavy with gray cobwebs and pork sausage grease splatters, the pork sausage grease saved in a coffee cup that smells up the kitchen, smells up the house, fouls my heart. She is the cut up clothing laying all over the floor, on every floor, in every corner, heaped like refugee rag dolls, along with the piles of records, ripped up hand bags, old cans of blue paint. The blue paint she painted the outside of the house without finishing the job, the blue paint that streaks the back of the bathroom door, that is all over the porcelain toilets, all over the scuff marks on the tips of her shoes.
We know our father was a child survivor of a Japanese concentration camp.
“Scrape your plate,” Mom always says. “I should put you in a concentration camp and let you starve.” That’s what Mom says at the dinner table while we stare at the trash piled high on the fake wood table -- the elastic cut off from Dad and Albert’s old underwear, the coupons glued together with spilled milk and mold, the thimbles, newspaper clippings, nuts and bolts, the unwashed dishes, dirty knick knacks from garage sales, the dusty plastic flowers falling out of a dented aluminum tea kettle.
We eat Mom’s cooking, eat chipped beef that was boiled in a plastic bag, or chew green peppers stuffed with white rice off of chipped plates and drink from faded, plastic glasses that once had pink and green beach scenes on them. Mom found them last week at a garage sale for a quarter.
We hold Mom’s cooking in our mouths, peppers stuffed with rice with no flavor. We wipe our faces with paper towels when she’s not looking and unload the mouthfuls in them. We slink under the table. We try to escape. I pick through the broken cookies at the bottom of the wooden cookie jar, brushing off the tiny bugs and old crumbs clinging to them.
We know our father was a child survivor of a concentration camp. How he starved. A 10-year old boy, taken from his mother and sisters and put in a camp for old men and adolescent boys. The Jongenscamp. Surviving on clothing starch, snails, grass or scraping the ultra-thin layer inside a banana peel, or filling his belly up with the compressed straw that was for the guards’ pigs, or drinking from toilets in the dark of the night, or crouching by the bamboo fence and waiting for something to eat, for something to crawl under the fence and into the camp – anything -- rats or snakes that he grabbed by the tail and whipped to break their backs and eat them raw.
“Look at this!” Mom cries. “Look at this last drop of milk you have wasted! Sit back down here and drink it. People are starving to death!” Her mouth is a rectangular slot of false teeth lined with shiny wire, clenched, carving lines deep as dry old cheese into the corners of her mouth. All I see are her waxy pink-gummed false teeth that slide out of her mouth and sit in a glass of water that is never changed. The glass of water on top of the rusting medicine cabinet in the bathroom that Mom, using her zigzag scissors, pasted over with sticky contact paper of sailing ships. I see the false teeth, yellow hunks of food stuck between the teeth, floating and trying to escape. They sit in front of the mirror dimmed by years of white toothpaste splatter where I stare at myself brushing my teeth with my blue gun toothbrush. I am thin, thin, skeleton thin, knobby elbows, tall for my age. My Dutch white face, heart-shaped with wide Czech cheeks and a pointy chinned, is shocked by my dark brown hair that I hate, stick straight like Dad’s. With my green-brown eyes I stare. I don’t think. I don’t feel.
We know that our father is a child survivor of a Japanese concentration camp. I see Dad sitting on the rattan couch that was once new from American Furniture warehouse, now covered with layers of unsewn, unmatched tattered fabric that was on sale at So-Fro Fabrics for 35 cents a yard.
Dad sits alone on the couch listening to Madame Butterfly. The part where she finds out that Pinkerton has a new wife. A cone of sandalwood incense burns He has taken pills for his migraine headaches. The headaches he gets every day to some degree. Sometimes bad. In the middle of the night, waking up sweating. From remembering something. Or thinking of it. He takes codeine, amatriptaline, bottlesfuls. Their yellow-brown plastic containers sit next to his bed on the bed stand next to the picture of Jesus that glows in the dark. The empty containers fall, roll under the bed. Some tall and thin, other fat and big. With long pills, yellow pills, round white pills. When the headaches are really bad he goes to the hospital and they stick a needle full of Demerol in his neck and he sleeps for days.
Tonight the headache is bad. Dad took many pills. He is slow. I walk up behind him and without a word gently place my hands on his head. I ask God why. Why? Why do people suffer? Why did my father have to go through hell as a child? Why did he survive?
My hands run like seeping water through his hair, gray, greasy, limp. My hands pull his hair, just like the nurse he had in Java. She knew just where to twist and pull a section of hair to make a headache go away. I pull his hair. Pull out the tigers and snakes roaming the jungles of Indonesia, when it was the Dutch East Indies. Pull out the pain, pull out the war, pull out the headache that will leave Dad in bed with a wet washcloth over his eyes. Unable to move, drenched in tears and sweat, unable to hear in the darkness of his room or go to work at his job as a mechanical engineer beneath fluorescent lights in a yellow brick building in Boulder.
My fingers push on his muscles, the bulging tight muscles in his neck that connect to his head, that surge into his eyes, forcing them closed, unable to watch Star Trek or Buck Rogers or the Project Blue Book episodes that we have seen so many times we know the dialogue by heart.
“Shit, dog shit. Bobbie rocco moco poco pup,” Mom says, searching for something, alone in the kitchen as she opens and shuts the kitchen cabinets, opens and shuts them. “Rocco moco poco pup. Shit, dog house.” My hands pull Dad’s hair harder.
“Shake your hands,” Dad says in his thick Dutch accent. “Shake the pain out of your hands. Get rid of it.”
I shake and I shake.
“Cat, rat, trap, dog dump,” Mom says as she opens and shuts the kitchen cabinets, opens and shuts them.
At midnight, Dad vomits in the bathroom. Vomits in the toilet that is always clogged with Mom’s diarrhea that is caused by her weak bowels. Because the doctors cut her fistula when she delivered Nancy, Albert, Patti and Jeanie, all 10-pound children.
“They ripped my guts up,” Mom tells the woman at the K-Mart check out counter. “Nancy, Albert, Patti and Jeanie. Backwards the first letters spell Japan.

Cleaning In Between the Cracks

On Tuesday the landlady called to say that mowing the lawn is in the lease, and the lawn needs to be mowed. Yes, it does, I see looking out the window. One of those things I have to get around to. She was sweet and offered to send over a guy and I sure said, "Thank you!" and he fixed it up good.
That gave me the bug to Spring clean, as it's finally May and beautiful out, now that Mother's Day passed. But it was hard to get outside, since this Mother's Day was rainy and cold out, and I couldn't go to the Botanic Gardens like I wanted to get some roses and sun and we went to see Star Trek at the movies instead.
So the landlady's nudging got me out of my house and work. So I bought a new plastic bucket and some Mr. Clean and attacked the kids' bathroom. I should be working, but I have so much to do I can't begin unless I clear my mind. And having this space of mindless, physical motion brings the answers I need. I had to clean the bathroom because it was looking a tad schizophrenic like my mother was, and I worry about Paloma because she has the learning disability and her room and organizational skills are heinous and it looks a lot like my mother! She always undoes the bandaid wrappers and leaves them all over the floor, clothing and towels on the floor, yuck!
So I sloshed around, getting rid of this 1970s era stuff - schizophrenia and filth that was my childhood home on the prairie of East Boulder. And funny because this house I rent now was built in that era, just real close to the foothills and mountains, so a different energy about it. The tub and toilet were filthy, and the toothpaste splattered on the mirror, harkening of childhood. I had so scrub up this cat litter clay that got wet. I mean this place was sparkling by the time I finished it and what a difference! As I work I talk to myself, As The Queen of Bohemia. I think about Justin or Peter or Frank or any of all the suffering I have and if vengeance or anger or fear comes up, I slip to the transcendent where the Queen attitude resides. I no longer go there. I am free from that hell and karma. A Queen over rides such petty issues of the world. The Queen is a mother, who holds me and tells me that the world is a beautiful and safe place and that love and goodness do prevail. She tells me to expect only glorious life, and all its demons are actually her most faithful servants. It is a grounding in the Self. To think positive and move the body in rhythm with it to really get it sunk in. This double Saturn time to really show me rock bottom to finally claim the bottom of the Self, and find that faith again. That it's safe to believe in one's Self. That one is valuable and desired and respected. That there is something to be felt that is good about one's Self, and a knowing that everything will be all right. That success and financial and life abundance are mine. As well as boundaries, respect and value. And that coming from the yogic centered seat of the Self, everything radiates from there. My children, and how important it is to get Paloma whatever tests, tutoring or medical she needs. And how important it is for Alejandro to go to a very good school for his academic progress because he is so bright. I scrub and scrub and scrub. And that's the price of staying here in Boulder, where it is quite expensive to live, but it's worth it. It's beautiful here, where I can hike every morning in the foothills with Pepe. And walk to Paloma's school now (she's switching). So I feel positive about myself and very happy that I have decided to stay here. For at least another year. Moving home to Dad and to purge the house is a regression to negative, fearful thinking. What focus consumed by it's thoughts to move there in the first place? Better served focused on glorious art and service. And that is what is required to make it come about. It's a feeling and a knowing.
So I worked a lot and got caught up on all those piddle details of business and the garage after the kids got home, because I definitely love the outdoors and gardening. Cleaning the garage was satisfying, again, focusing on the eternal present and being in my body and my breath, erasing all history and memory, any residue of dark thoughts and feelings associated with the past and my mother and 1388 Kilkenny Street. The thoughts are not paranoid, over thinking, doubtful and fearful and hanging out in the halls of dungeons and trolls and all those people you attract around you who want to suck your energy dry. But attracting dependable, safe, kind people and resources who support you in your glorious creation. The kids and I got ice cream and we picked up some plants and potting soil. I spiffed up the porch, rearranging my clay pots and plants up the steps while Paloma climbed in the tree and Pepe ran around. I put the garbage cans in the garage and swept everything clean. The house looked great, clean and well -cared for, respected and honored. It reminded me with it's white colonial style and its beauty as if it were a wedding. And I think that is why I dreamt of some weddings a few nights ago. Married to my Self and my children and home. This is how I heal my home, by healing my own heart. And then my children's can heal, and the ancestors can heal, and every one is forgiven and the whole world just opens up and everybody is healed and loved and joyful.
And finally in full gear, I cleaned my bathroom, where if cat pee were there, it was gone. Scrubbing the toilets and rearranging my place where I honor myself and clean myself. To get myself up every morning and put myself together. To shower and style my hair, brush my teeth and put on make up and jewelry. Something my mother never did. When you have a bag lady for a mother who dug in the neighbors' trash cans for a beauty role model, it can be confusing. I pay attention to my appearance and I help Paloma do it too. Good modeling for her. I French-braided her beautiful, thick hair the other day and we made sure the wash was done I have to get at them to pick up and remember, but Alejandro's getting it. He's growing up and understanding how things work. Back to the bathroom, I scrubbed the mold that was beginning to accumulate in my shower. That film that hangs over everything, it's gone. Like the veil of Maya, lifting, and all you see is physics in action. And there is no explaination. At least not with the head. And so, as Dad insists, maybe everything will be over in 2012 as we go into the fourth dimension, so I shouldn't worry about a thing anyways.

The Queen of Bohemia Cleans Her Own House

So it turns out that the gal in the 2 BR, 2BA basement apartment on Speer wants the upstairs unit since I lowered the price. Her name is Valerie and she's a nursing student. Her parents in Phoenix send the rent check every month. I saw her briefly one day recently, heading out for snowboarding. She is this 24-year-old, has this dark hair and white complexion, a sexy, raspy voice and a little silky Yorky dog named Fred. She's moving in already. I figured she would move out of the basement anyway, since i needed to start charging her utilities.
So now I am advertising for the basement and I now realized it was stupid to raise the rent $50 a month after putting $4k in cash to fix it up when the mortgage is underwater, and I had a really good tenant, but that's OK. Because Lakshmi and Parvati area always with me saying, it's all an illusion. Just keep playing the game. Amor Fati. That's what it's all about. The gods are watching this lovely play that you are a star in.
And that's what it is. As I sat in the staff meeting about what to do about my daughter, who we realize that her learning disabilities are emotional. I do believe, all the chaos of my husband's death, finding a father for my daughter and son that led to financial disaster, and now once again on my own in desperate need of a housekeeper because the ants have found the honey mess in the armoire. She just needs a safe place and a lot of love and then she can start to learn. So that's all anybody needs.
The other day I cleaned out the whole kitchen. It was a mess, the ants were coming. I had the kids pull everything out. I bought Mr. Clean scrubby sponges and I attacked it with a lot of loud music and a good six pack of Fat Tire and other things, but that's for a later post. Cleaning is wonderful, mindless. When you are creative and think a lot and expend a lot of energy creating, pure physical exertion is a fantastic counterpart. Moving mindlessly with motions of clean in hand. I got a special tile brush from Target to get into the cracks and get the filth out. Any lingering self doubt and fear. It's gone. I got down on the floor and scrubbed. I put a big cloth down and used my feet to clean the filth off the floor. I felt confident, fine. I figured the landlady would appreciate it. Just like I appreciate the tenants on Speer and Arvada taking care of my property. I was focused in the transcendent rather than duality, because that's where Lakshmi and Parvati area all hanging out and it's good to see them there. It's a nice feeling to be there. There is a deeper reality that sustains you. You go there when you lose everything and you say, "Ah! I was such a coward, and now I am free!" And you can do anything and things just kind a work out because you have shifted your focus from doomsday negative to this life is fucking fantastic and I can create anything I want to so let's go. Let's get serious. Let's say it's a wonderful life, all of it. All the mess and screwy stuff and betrayal and loss and love and ALL OF IT. And you might as well start some kind of a revolution, now that you see so clearly what and how you are. And you just stand by and watch and love your kids and friends and have a good time cleaning because it's going to change and you will be on to the next scene for the Gods who are watching you and writing your script that you are too creating as you participate in with your thoughts, word and deeds.
The kids are at Opa's house tonight. In order to have two nights alone, I have to go and buy $84 groceries, then drop then at my dad's in east Boulder. It's a lot of work. But it's great to have the time just to write, just to watch a movie in peace, just to have no responsibilities for one day. For yesterday the kids went riding their bikes down to the school and Alejandro called to say Paloma fell off her bike and I had to walk all the way down there and get her. And that was OK. I loved charging up the hill again pulling Paloma on her bike. I commended Alejandro for helping his sister. I said we are getting good exercise and what else is there in life? And today Paloma wore flip flops and insisted that her Converse tennis shoes were in a backpack left at school, and when I found them in the closet I ran them down to the school because today was the Fun Run. No more track and field day at school like when I was a kid and got lots of blue and red and yellow and green ribbons. But run for fun. And that's it. So I did. I ran her shoes down to her and she ran in them rather than flip flops. That's all I can say. That is what I live for and that is why I don't care about all that has happened to me. Love is in the flip flops.

Parvati and Lakshmi in Highlands Square

I drove down to Highlands again to show the apartment. It's a long drive from Boulder. The guy loved it. Hopefully he will put in an application. It is a cute place; it does have value. I feel bad that the former resident, Ken, had to move because I raised the rent, and then now that I'm not going to do more renovations because it just costs so damn much and the mortgage is underwater and I'm unsure if I even WANT to pay the mortgage because my daughter needs special education attention, I had to lower the rent a bit and after all this and spending $1000 in fix up I'm going to get back an extra $35 a month. And all this driving back and forth. Sometimes I think the universe really loves to play tricks on me. But now I am thinking that things are getting easier. Parvati and Lakshmi tell me to just hang in there. It's all an illusion. You have nothing left to lose, so just be free and happy. It's all going to be fine, and you have found definite, strong, secure faith because of all this.
Yes, that's all I have. Faith. When everything falls away, you uncover your true Self, and it's found through pure faith.
I like my little rental. I will keep paying the mortgage. What does it all matter anyway? It's just an actor's job.
People are still signing up for my e-courses, I'm excited about a new web designer and working with Mary to focus on publishing. I love the clarity and I love just running errands and being with my kids. No pressure to save up millions and hoard cash and real estate. Just play the game, stay in the energy of Parvati and Lakshmi in this playful universe. All is well. As long as you are doing what your heart desires and following the dharma, there is nothing to be done.

The Pirate